6 Ways to get out of a Slump
We’ve all been there. A few days go by, and then a few weeks and who knows maybe a few months and you realize you’re in a funk. Whether its your job, your routine or your relationship, we’ve all been there. But how to do you shake yourself out of it and keep moving forward.
The new year is a time where everyone gets reenergized to make new goals and start new things, but don’t let that be the day you are waiting for. You can start working on those things now. You can start making changes now. There is nothing magical about January 1st so instead of waiting, let’s go ahead and get started!
If you’re in a funk of any kind, here are a few tips to help yourself work through it and get out of it. You can do this, I’m right there with you babes!
Don’t be afraid to acknowledge the slump.
Sometimes acknowledging the slump is the worst part. It’s hard to accept that you might not be where you want to be. It’s hard to accept that you might be unhappy or need to change something so this mood and phase doesn’t continue. But you will never be able to move forward if you cannot acknowledge you’re there in the first place. When you realize you’re in a slump, you can at least name it and start taking action to get out of it. Don’t be afraid to acknowledge and see the slump you’ve been in, that won’t make it own you, it actually gives you the power to get out of it.
Be kind to yourself.
We can be really critical of ourselves, especially when we are already feeling down. The judgement and comparison can come quick and makes it hard to believe that you can do anything right to get out of this slump you are in. But instead of being hard on yourself choose to be kind. Treat yourself like you would a friend or a child. Allow yourself space to acknowledge and be in the slump. Don’t fight the feelings, let them happen. But don’t judge yourself for them. You are your own worst critic and it’s time to turn that voice around to be your best cheerleader.
Don’t dwell on it.
Okay, you’ve acknowledged the slump and chosen not to judge yourself for it. But babe, don’t now sit there and dwell on it. It’s important to create space for your feelings, even the uncomfortable ones, but don’t let yourself stay there forever. At some point only you can get yourself up and choosing to do things differently. Dwelling on it won’t change anything, and soon it’ll be another few days or weeks and you’ll be even more frustrated than before. Instead, in this moment decide it’s time for change.
Find things that bring you joy.
When you are experiencing a slump in your life of any kind, look out specifically for things that bring you joy. People or activities that truly make you happy and fill you up. Nothing will change over night, so maybe you have to stay at that job longer than you want, or that person in your life isn’t going anywhere, but that doesn’t mean you still can’t find other things that bring you joy. Maybe you’re frustrated about your body or you’re feeling stuck, think of something you love doing that you can thank your body for being able to do! Skipping or snuggling or hugging are all simple things that can bring you joy, even in the smallest way for a simple moment.
Lean on friends and accountability.
You are not alone in this world, even if it feels that way. Instead of isolating yourself, choose to find friends and community that get you out there. If you want to start working out more, grab a buddy that will show up with you! If you want to start looking for a new job, get the word out to your friends to keep their eyes and ears open and practice mock interviews with them or let them review your resume! We’ve all been there and it’s nice to know you don’t have to go through these things alone. Find a buddy, be honest and choose to go through it together. This could even mean a counselor or therapist if you wish not to share these things with friends. Sometimes it’s nice to talk things through with an objective third party and really process the situation as a whole.
Thank the experience.
I believe all things happen for a reason. That doesn’t mean I like all things but I believe there is purpose to everything. That means even the dark, sad, scary or slumpy times all have a purpose in them. It might be small or it might be big but those things make up part of who you are. They don’t have to define you but they are still part of your journey. I love this quote below because I think it beautifully shows us how every storm and every season is a part of who we are.
“And once the storm is over, you won't remember how you made it through, how you managed to survive. You won't even be sure, whether the storm is really over. But one thing is certain. When you come out of the storm, you won't be the same person who walked in. That's what this storm's all about.” -Haruki Murakami,
If this year has felt like a slump or even these last few days or weeks, just know you are not alone. Know that you are strong enough to push through this and you can always start again. It is never too late.
So what are some of your go-to ways of getting yourself out of a slump?